What’s wrong with beautiful girls?
Over the last two weeks I’ve taken out two great looking girls, one of them in particular was simply stunning. Okay stunning is too strong a word, but if you saw her on the street you would definitely take a second and third look!
So first question – what on earth are they both doing on an internet dating site? I asked them both, and the standard answer was given in both cases “I’m so busy, it just seems like a good way to meet someone special. You can’t meet someone special in a pub or club”. Fair enough I guess, and I’m pretty much in the same boat.
I took both girls to different places for a drink, both fairly upmarket and classy places. In both cases we had plenty to talk about, each of us had similar goals and aspirations, we had similar travel stories to tell (both were particularly well travelled) and one could see no reason whatsoever for any of these two girls to be my perfect match.
There’s a problem though… no connection, none at all. Why not though? Certainly I was physically attracted to them, very much so. I liked everything about both of them, but not enough to want to take things further. Whilst I had no intention of taking things further, I certainly wasn’t the only one, because they haven’t exactly been rushing to contact me in the following days either!
I’ve racked my brain and I can’t for the life of me work out why there was no connection. Is it something about me and attractive girls? Is that the problem? I don’t think so, I’ve dated attractive girls before without any problems. I think it was just that they were boring to be honest. Not boring in that you’d fall asleep spending time with them, but boring in that, I don’t know, just not exciting.
Maybe it’s that girls who know they’re very attractive feel they don’t have to try as hard, and rely on their looks to get them through? Maybe it’s that for years they’ve just had guys want them for their looks, so they’ve ignored everything else? Perhaps that worked when they were younger, but I suspect if they’re looking for a meaningful relationship they’re going to have to offer up more than their looks.
You know what else this little episode has revealed? Maybe I’m not as shallow as I once feared I was!
Tags: first date, internet dating, looks, online dating