Why don’t girls say what’s on their mind?
Monday, July 14th, 2008This post pretty much carries on from my last post. The burning question is - why don’t girls say what’s on their mind?
There have been a few girls lately who I’ve dated, been out with a couple of times, then they’ve just disappeared off the face of the earth. Okay, that makes me sound really bad, but I’m sure that I’m not the problem!
So why does it happen? You go out on a few dates, everything seems to be going fine, then they just stop returning messages. You know why I don’t think I’m the problem? Well firstly because I think I’m a great catch (joking!) and secondly because I’ve only ever experienced this with girls from internet dating sites. Real girls don’t just start ignoring you, but ‘internet girls’ do.
Obviously if they stop returning calls, or just start stretching contact right out, it means they’re no longer interested. That’s fine, completely fine, but why not just say so? It would save so much wondering if they’d just say it!
Thinking about this subject something suddenly dawned on me… I’ve been doing the same thing for years! You see a girl a few times, you’re not really interested, but you don’t want to tell them you’re not interested so you just drag it out until the girl loses interest herself. Then you don’t have to worry about the awkward conversation!
But now I realise that this is totally the wrong thing to do, because being on the other side of this treatment isn’t so much fun.
Now back to what I said earlier about it only being ‘internet girls’ that this happens with. I guess it’s the lack of accountability that comes with internet dating. If you’re introduced to someone through friends, or through work, there are other people involved. If a friend introduces you to someone and then you just start ignoring them, your friend isn’t going to be too impressed. When you meet on the internet, there are no other people, so if you just cut off contact with the other person there is nothing more to it. No accountability.
So what’s the moral of this post? Pretty simply really, just say what’s on your mind, ignoring people isn’t cool! I’ll be trying my best to keep up my end of the bargain too.